Tibetan Wedding ceremony is one of the biggest and most important ceremonies in life etiquette, which has been highly valued by individuals, families and Society for a long time in the Tibetan community and it is one of the most important traditional culture of Tibet.
the past, in Tibetan areas, marriage etiquette and customs were strictly
hierarchical, and the procedures and customs were different from each other.
Here, we can only introduce the traditional Tibetan Marriage Etiquette and
customs based on the general family situation in Tibetan area.
is the initial procedure of Tibetan wedding ceremony. Once the man sees a girl
and likes her, he asks for the woman’s age and birth of date, and goes to the
astrologer for divination (Tibetan term “PAZI”). If the astrology
says she will be a good partner for his marriage, then the man chooses an auspicious
day, brings a white Tibetan scarf known as Khada in Tibetan, tea and wine and
other gifts to the woman’s family, and propose formally.
the two parties agree to the marriage, they choose a good day for their family
representatives and marriage witnesses to work out the engagement. The contents
of the marriage contract are mostly mutual respect and love between the men and
women, filial piety to their elders, high moral character, or inheritance of
property in the future.
the day of engagement, the man will give each of the young and old in the woman’s
family a Khada and rich gift. The woman will prepare tea, wine, rice, etc. for
hospitality. After the representatives of both sides enter the main hall and
take their seats in turn, the host’s house will serve “Chema” with
tea and wine. Chema is made of Tsampa, butter and sugar which is the symbol of
proposed family presents a gift, especially a “Bangdian It is a kind of
Tibetan robe with various colors and thin horizontal lines” to the mother,
which is used as the “milk money” for the mother for raising her
that, they put the engagement in duplicate on the high foot plate, read it
aloud by the witness, and another witness checked it carefully. After reading,
the witness put the family seals of the two families on the marriage letter in
public, and then solemnly handed them to the father of the other party by the
representatives of the woman and the man. Then the two parents presented Khada to
the witness to express their gratitude.
the engagement ceremony was held, neither the young men nor the young women
attended, only the family members. At the end of the ceremony, the women’s
family invited guests for a feast and got together for one day. In the evening,
when the men’s family left, the women’s family offered each visitor a Khada.
3. Preparation before the Tibetan wedding ceremony
marriage, the family of the woman also chooses a lucky day. Hand over the
dowry. The amount of dowry varies according to the economic situation, but
there must be a Bodhisattva, a Book of scriptures and a pagoda.
the Tibetan society, the dowry was very important when there is a marriage and
it has several thousand years of history. It is said that Princess Wencheng
brought these three items when she came to Tibet, so it has been handed down as
a necessary part of marriage dowry.
marriage husband’s family invites astrologer to make a fortune to determine the
wedding date (Tibetan “Nianzi”). On the first day of the wedding
ceremony, the man sent someone to wrap a set of beautiful clothes and eyewear
with silk and satin and send them to the woman’s home for the bride to wear.
4. Welcome relatives during the Tibetan wedding
the day of greeting the bride, the man’s family will be looking for an identity
person to bring a team of people, horses and colorful arrows, with bright
mirrors, jade and beads on them, and a pregnant and well-dressed mare with the
same color as the woman’s belongings for the bride to ride and go to the
woman’s house to meet her new mother.
the arrival of the horse team, the women should hold farewell ceremonies such
as tea and wine honoring “qiema”. When the men’s greeting team enters
the door, first insert the color arrow on the bride’s back, and then put the
setting jade on the bride’s head, indicating that the bride has belonged to the
man’s family. When the girl goes out, the family members of the girl take the
colorful arrow and the leg of the lamb in one hand and stand upstairs and
shout, “don’t take my family’s blessing away!” repeatedly until the
girl goes far away.
from the horse team, the leader of the team should be the best one (usually the
astrologer). He wears a white robe, riding a white horse, holding the nine
palaces and eight diagrams in his hand. Then the wedding representative, after
that is attendant of the wife and the bride’s attendant.
the way, the man’s family should wait beside the road and offer three drinks to
the horse team. If you encounter people carrying patients, taking out garbage
and carrying empty baskets on the road which is considered as an unlucky sign.
During the march of the horse team, the entourage sang “Xieqing” (a
big song), while the bride cried as she walked.
the bride arrives, the man must dress up the gate and prepare a mat for the
bride to dismount. The mat is a pocket with barley and wheat, covered with
multicolored brocade, and the surface is painted with wheat grain as the symbol
. Family will hold “Chema” and barley wine at the door.
traditional entrance ceremony is very complicated. From getting off the horse,
entering the door, going upstairs to entering the hall, you have to drink an
ode and present a hada. After the brides’ hall, sit at the bridegroom’s head,
and the welcoming and seeing off teams also sit down in turn. Then they begin
to offer “Qima”, tea and wine, and Khada to Buddha statues and
that, the bride and groom enter the bridal chamber, and the family begins to
entertain the guests for three days. In three days, relatives and friends sent Khada
and gifts one after another.
Summary of Tibetan wedding ceremony
etiquette is very complicated, and in the past, it was only held by families
with certain economic strength. Of course. The marriage of contemporary Tibetan
young men and women have long been very simple in terms of etiquette and
customs. The biggest taboo of Tibetan Marriage and love is to forbid the marriage
of close relatives, which conforms to the principle of human eugenics.
Marriage is not only forbidden between cousins and sisters, but also for those who have an aunt cousin relationship. Generally, matrilineal descendants can intermarry after four generations. In some areas, it takes seven to nine generations to get married. However, as long as the patrilineal descendants know that they are the same ancestor, intermarriage is strictly prohibited.
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